“I don’t think that loving yourself is a choice. I think that it’s a decision that has to be made for survival; it was in my case. Loving myself was the result of answering two things: Do you want to live? ‘Cause this is who you’re gonna be for the rest of your life. Or are you gonna just have a life of emptiness, self-hatred and self-loathing? And I chose to live, so I had to accept myself.” ~ Lizzo
Everybody and their cat is about Lizzo at the moment, she is simply everywhere. Dominating the charts, the awards shows and the world. She’s a true (fat) queen preaching common sense about self-love and acceptance – and a talented, hot AF one at that.
I’m aware self=love is something of a buzzword around these parts. I talk about it a lot, vowing to love myself a little bit more every time. And believe me, I try and for the most part I truly do accept myself. Self-acceptance doesn’t seem to be a you have it or you don’t type deal though, not for me. I would say I’m a work in progress, my core gets stronger every day but every so often I lose my shit all together and I am brutal to myself.
I’m trying to get to grips with the horrible things I say to my inner self. I mean, I wouldn’t talk to my enemy with this much vitriol so why on Earth do I accept it from myself? How dare I?
As Lizzo suggests, at almost 42 this is pretty much the blueprint for who I’m going to be. I might change slightly over the years but the foundations are set. I have no choice but to well, shit or get off the pot. Or, as Andy says more delicately:
“I guess it comes down to a simple choice, really. Get busy living or get busy dying.” ~ Andy Dufresne, The Shawshank Redemption
I think it might just be that simple. She says, realising that if it was we’d all be Lizzo all day, everyday. I’m going to try though, honestly for my own sanity. The next time my brain tells me to fear something or questions my competence, intellect or the way I look, I’m going to shake it off. Do a star jump or something and try again.
Lizzo would not stand for this total fucking bullshit and nor will I. I’ll leave you with another quote from the wise one from the 2019 MTV VMAs:
“Let me talk to y’all for a second. I’m tired of the bullshit. And I don’t have to know your story to know that you’re tired of the bullshit too. It’s so hard trying to love yourself in a world that doesn’t love you back, am I right?
So I want to take this opportunity right now to just feel good as hell. Because you deserve to feel good as hell. So tell me how you’re feeling?”
How are you feeling?
Here are a couple of Lizzo-centric articles about self-acceptance: